“Bring consent out of the bedroom. I think part of the reason we have trouble drawing the line “it’s not okay to force someone into sexual activity” is that in many ways, forcing people to do things is part of our culture in general. Cut that shit out of your life. If someone doesn’t want to go to a party, try a new food, get up and dance, make small talk at the lunchtable—that’s their right. Stop the “aww c’mon” and “just this once” and the games where you playfully force someone to play along. Accept that no means no—all the time.”—
it’s especially important to practice this with KIDS. Kids need to know it’s ok to say no to giving auntie a hug and kiss. it’s ok to say no to getting up on stage at a children’s show or activity. it’s ok to say no. please teach your children this!
I'm going to fall in love with you for your imperfections. Not all that beautiful fairy tale bullshit. Let me see the monsters that rage inside of you and the flaws on your skin.. I will love them so hard that they won't exist to you anymore.
“Isn’t it interesting how the stillness of the night can betray reality? How inside you and every other individual there can exist such a storm trying to break free from its constraints of the flesh to scream out into the world and disturb the peace.”—(via linwetharfeiniel)
current goals apparently include following every INFJ blog on Tumblr
I don’t think I’ve ever felt so validated, safe, and not alone, as when I discovered I was an INFJ and began to discover fellow INFJs. I love your minds, and if I can love the minds of other INFJs so much, then that gives me hope that maybe I can learn to love my own mind.
do you ever just crave domesticity? to coming home to a partner, meld into them like you do your bed after a long day, soak your mind in the serenity of theirs like a warm bath to soothe the knots in your body, wrap yourself in their warmth and just fucking sigh from pure comfort
No I don’t want to be a billionaire to live a lavish lifestyle I want to be a billionaire to be financially secure and have enough money to give people things and support charities and fund kickstarters and leave hundred dollar tips.
“Everything that happens to you is a reflection of what you believe about yourself. We cannot outperform our level of self-esteem. We cannot draw to ourselves more than we think we are worth.”—Iyanla Vanzant (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
The thing that’s so disgusting about the murders of Trayvon Martin, Mike Brown, Sean Bell etc (a very long list) is that it’s not like we’re trying to figure out who killed them. We know perfectly well. We’re just trying to figure out if that black kid deserved to die. They’re humanity is put on trial, like being a person wasn’t enough. Black people literally have to prove that we’re worthy of living.