“When you grow up as a girl, the world tells you the things that you are supposed to be: emotional, loving, beautiful, wanted. And then when you are those things, the world tells you they are inferior: illogical, weak, vain, empty.”—Stevie Nicks (via angelingus)
Kill the idea that naivety is an unforgivable flaw but cynicism is just wisdom, murder it, chop it up and serve it for dinner, I don’t care, just end this bullshit idea that it’s better to hate than to love and better to rot in miserable bitter resignation than to hope for the best.
“Fall in love with someone who wants you, who waits for you. who understands you even in the madness; someone who helps you, and guides you, someone who is your support, your hope. fall in love with someone who talks with you after a fight. Fall in love with someone who misses you and wants to be with you. Do not fall in love only with a body or with a face; or with the idea of being in love”—(via mydemisee)
“If you can’t fight with me, I won’t expect you to fight for me.
I want to know that you are willing to fight with me so we can work through our problems, I want to know you’d fight for me if it ever came to it. I would fight for you. And I would fight with you.”—(via karmendyjoy2013)
I can't remember if you answered anything like this before, and I couldn't find it on your blog, but a) did you struggle with depression while you were in school? and b) if you did, how did you get through school? Asking because I've been trying to do college off and on for the last six years and I'm starting to feel like I should quit forever because my progress is incredibly slow and I'm one of the oldest people in my classes.
It’s okay if your progress is slow. It’s still progress. It’s still awesome. Plus, age doesn’t really matter when it comes to learning. There is no shame in being the oldest in your classes.
I personally had to drop out because I was too sick to keep attending, but I really hated school anyway (and now I love what I do which is a nice difference), so I feel like even if I could have stayed, it probably wouldn’t have been a good decision for me. You shouldn’t focus on what I did though. Just because I couldn’t finish school doesn’t mean you can’t.
I think you should take all the breaks you need. Slow progress is better than forcing yourself and then getting so sick that you’re not making any progress at all. I think that if you want to quit and it’s what feels right, then you should do it, but if finishing school is what you want, then you should stick with it even if it takes a long time.
In their mating role, Healers have a deep commitment to their vows. They are loyal to their mates and, while they might dream of greener pastures, if they stray into those pastures they soon locate the nettles
oh my god everyone who says you aren’t allowed to use the word “trigger” unless you get flashback/seizures from your triggers can just fuck off into a hole in the ground
trigger is a VERY common word within therapy and it has different meanings depending on what you’re getting treated for and it isn’t world-widely exclusive to only the most severe conditions, it can and has been used to describe something that causes anxiety/unease (because the thing/sensation triggers memories or issues) as well so fuck off alriiiight
So it’s 3AM and It’s just occurred to me that the most telling scene in the entire Harry Potter franchise is the scene following the announcement of the participants of the Triwizard tournament.
When Harry’s name is pulled out of the cup, literally one of the first things he is asked is “did you ask an older boy to put your name in the cup for you?" or something to that effect, insinuating that, that was something nobody prepared for and that it was something that totally would have worked if anyone had been smart enough to figure it out.
However, in an earlier scene a student is turned into a hundred year old man when they try to artificially age themselves with a potion and put their name into the cup. Meaning someone trying to dangerously age themselves with potion they aren’t familiar with was something the teachers genuinely considered to be more likely than someone asking for fucking help from another student.
In other words, the wizards in Harry Potter’s world are so reliant on magic that it doesn’t occur to anyone save for people like Harry that asking for help is even an option in a given situation. This explains why wizards are so fucking ass-backwards at everything, they’re so confident that their magic is capable of doing everything for them that it has never occurred to fucking anyone that perhaps asking for help from the muggle world might be of some use.
Think about it, the wizarding world hasn’t changed in hundreds of years while in that same space of time the muggle world has figured out fucking space travel. I know it’s a cliché to say to say someone could have fucking shot Voldemort, but seriously, somebody totally fucking could have, he killed like 50 people, he was effectively a terrorist, if anyone in the wizarding world bothered to ask for help from the muggles instead of just telling them there was an invisible asshole flying around shooting death curses at everyone, they may have been able to help.
Pretty much the only reason Voldermort thinks he’s better than muggles is because he’s able to kill them with impunity using magic, something he’s only able to do so easily because muggles don’t understand what magic is. Voldemort is basically like a fucking disease, he’s an invisible, lurking entity preying on mankind from the shadows like a cowardly piece of shit. You know what else did that? Smallpox and we stomped that to death the second we understood it. That’s the difference between muggles and wizards, when muggles don’t understand something, they figure it out.
And here’s the kicker, the only reason muggles don’t understand magic at all is because the wizarding world deliberately withholds information about it. However, even if the wizarding world kept doing that, it’d only be a matter of time until a muggle figured out what magic was and how to stop or harness it because that’s what humanity does, it pushes past what we think is impossible to see what’s on the other side. We didn’t understand the sun as a species originally and now we use it to power satellites and smartphones.
The wizarding world isn’t a realm of infinite possibilities, it’s a universe of strict limitations where boundaries are never questioned. The muggle world is where the real magic happens. That’s why during the course of the Harry Potter books, which are set between 1991 and 1998, the muggle world (our world) discovered dark matter, cloned a sheep and invented fucking MP3s while the wizarding world were literally paying some dipshit to figure out what the purpose of a rubber duck was.
Wow, I really shouldn’t think about this stuff when it’s like 3AM, it gets kind of dark.
Why can’t there be a male hooter’s equivalent where male servers are shirtless and highly sexualized for their bodies and looks
Male Strip clubs. You’re thinking of male strip clubs.
No. Not a male strip club. A strip club is a strip club. I want a place called Cahones where waiters wear Speedos and are forced to stuff if they don’t fill out their uniform well enough. I want them to giggle for my tips. I want it to be so normalised and engrained in our culture that women bring their daughters there for lunch (because whaaaaaat the wings are good! Geeze sensitive much?) where they’ll give playful little nudges like, “Wouldn’t mind if you dad had those. Heh heh heh.” that their daughters don’t even understand but will absorb and start to assume is just the normal way grown up women talk about grown up men. I want to playfully ask my waiter if I can have extra nuts on my salad and for him to swat my arm with an Oh, you because he knows if he doesn’t his manager will yell at him. I want other men to pretend to like going there so I think they’re cool. I want to go to Cahones during my lunch break at work and when I come back and tell the other women in the office where I went they chuckle slightly and the men around us suddenly feel self conscious and they don’t know why.
The greatest achievement that power has had in the last several centuries is abstracting itself, so that you’re no loner oppressed by slave owners, local lords, kings. You’re no longer oppressed by managers, police, and racist assholes at work.
Now of course you are, but the system you point to can no longer be summed up to an individual. We’ve created an amazing system, a serfdom without serf-owners, a capitalism where almost all managers are also crushed. Which means that you can’t point to anything, that you can’t say, this thing is unequestionably wrong.
And we’ve lived under a system like this for so long that even naming names like racism is a faux pas, and even saying that you are oppressed for systemic reasons can sound to some people like you’re propagating a conspiracy theory
I hate it when people say it’s ‘natural’ for girls to fight with each other and be manipulating/backstabbing even from a young age because that is such bullshit we TEACH girls that they have to compete with each other and that their worth is measured against other girls. We tell girls that physical fighting is for boys but still pit them against each other.
“this is a suicide poem,”
makes a joke about it,
doesn’t hear the echo
of my rope harnesses
and leftover blood stains
that don’t wash out
of my family’s brainstems
he says, “don’t try this at home,
kids,” says robert frost is chronically
depressed, laughs because the bird that
lives inside him is still singing
but me, my canary is long dead
because each hollow cave between my ribs
has long been filled with poison
love, do not joke about depression:
we are all pretending we are
diamond mines where there is only
coal, we are pretending not to hear
our emptiness howl -
love, if you are a teacher,
be tender, be sweet
you never know how close to death
are the creatures in these seats.
”—"I dont feel like the amazing, compassionate person people say I am." /// r.i.d (via inkskinned)
the way some men say stuff like ‘if a female hit me i’m knocking her the fuck out, i don’t give a fuck, step up like a man get knocked down like a man’ it’s almost like they’re just waiting for the day it happens? some men say it with such intensity and absence of shame that they sound excited to get the opportunity to hit a woman with their full strength and that shit kinda scares me.