“The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.”—Neil Gaiman (via sarcasticrustic)
“If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other more gently, with more love, tolerance and care.”—Marvin. J. Ashton (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
“Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it’s all a male fantasy: that you’re strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren’t catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you’re unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”—
Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride
I follow Margaret Atwood on twitter because she interacts with really funny nature accounts (she’ll rt something like @DucksIncorporated or @Birdwatchersunited and the tweet will be like, “The beautiful spring feathers of the meadowlark.”) Anyway. It’s easy to forget that she’s also a very dank writer.
You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman.
This line, oof.
Been spending a lot of time lately trying to untangle how a lifetime of patriarchy has fucked up my own sexual agency. Nothing like getting derailed inside your own head by worries of how you look in the moment, whether you measure up to some external standard…
“From the very beginning you are being told to compare yourself with others. This is the greatest disease; it is like a cancer that goes on destroying your very soul because each individual is unique, and comparison is not possible.”—Osho (via quizkwatsh)
so Charlotte Bronte read Emma by Jane Austen and was really interested in this minor character named Jane Fairfax who was poor and would have been a governess had she not married well and then Bronte wrote her own novel exploring the plight of the poor governess who married this guy named Edward Fairfax Rochester in a novel called Jane Eyre and my point is don’t let anyone tell you shit about fanfiction.
You would not yell at a mountain for being too big
You would not scream at the ocean for being too unpredictable
You would not destroy a tree for being too tall or too short
You would not complain at a river for being too wide or too skinny
You would not look down upon parts of nature for being what they are
I just remembered that last night as I was falling asleep I randomly saw the clearest image of a bear at the exact same time as I remembered a few important things I have to do, and I thought “ah, you must be the responsibility bear, come back when I’m not tired” and the image faded.
the best way i explain to people is by telling them to treat themselves the way they would treat a lover or spouse, but BETTER. some people grasp the idea better when they can imagine all the wonderful things they would do for someone they loved. so with that said, turn that energy onto yourself and amplify it.
heal your old wounds.
talk to yourself.
take care of your body, mind, and spirit.
admiring, acknowledging, appreciating, and understanding your own beauty.
taking yourself on dates.
surprising yourself with gifts.
writing yourself poetry.
the list goes on. self-love is all about you. helping yourself become the healthiest you that you can be through mind, body, and soul. while creating a bond with yourself. when you learn how to love yourself, you understand the treatment you deserve and you understand how to treat others.
Social anxiety isn’t “omg I hate people lol I wish I was sleeping and watching netflix!”. It’s “I want desperately to be able to hang out with people but I hate the feeling of sheer panic and fear I get around them so I don’t/ can’t and it eats away at me every day so I end up just staying home and say I’m sleeping or watching something”
“Don’t worry if people think you’re crazy. You are crazy. You have that kind of intoxicating insanity that lets other people dream outside of the lines and become who they’re destined to be.”—Jennifer Elisabeth, Introduction to the Born Ready book (via quotes-shape-us)
you deserve someone who isn’t embarrassed to love you and tells all their friends about you and saves your selfies, whether they’re good or bad to look at when they miss you and loses sleep to talk to you and tells you how much they love you and how beautiful you are all the time and i really hope you find that one day because you deserve to be loved
“So, what if, instead of thinking about solving your whole life, you just think about adding additional good things. One at a time. Just let your pile of good things grow.”—Attachments, Rainbow Rowell (via seulray)